Hey there! curious about bisexuality? It is likely a word that you have heard said or read about but like me, do not fully understand what it means. Or perhaps you have been pondering your sexuality yourself and need confirmation. Help is right here for you. Welcome to the wonderful rainbow of bisexual colors!
Half (50.8%) of LGBTQ+ Americans, including those identifying as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and other identities, identify as bisexual. per a recent Gallup poll. That’s a whole lot of people! Yet, even with these numbers in mind bisexuality remains one of the most misunderstood or ignored identities. Today we plan to change this. We will be looking at the true meaning of bisexuality, while debunking some misconceptions and taking a look into personal stories of bisexual people. Therefore, pull out a cup of coffee (or tea if that is your jam), let’s begin!
What is Bisexuality, Anyway?
Let’s start with the basics. Bisexuality, as a rule, is the capacity to be pulled in sentimentally or physically for all other people of any sex or even sexual category. Simple, right? Well, not always. As every other facet of human sexuality, bisexuality is a spectrum.
Think of sexuality as a large, colorful rainbow (appropriate, no?). You will remain only attracted to the same gender, while others will always be exclusively attracted to a different gender. Bisexuality? It’s all the beautiful colors of life.
But wait, there’s more! It is possible that you have known about difference between pansexual vs bisexual, omnisexuality, or demisexuality. Those would all be considered under the umbrella of bisexuality. Here’s a quick rundown:
Pansexuality (Also known as Omnisexuality) — Attraction irrespective of Gender
- Omnisexual: Attraction to all genders; gender does play a role in attraction
- Demisexuality: You lack sexual attraction and desire until you have formed a strong emotional bond with another person.
Walking in Bisexual Shoes
Navigating life as a bisexual person is interesting to say the least. Finding out that there really are two pieces to the puzzle they never realized they were putting together. This can mean a lot of reflection, coming to terms and sometimes unfortunately having to deal with internalized biphobia.
It is also difficult to explain that one happens in the case of bisexuality. Because bisexual people are typically pressured by both communities in differing ways. You can be gay, but might not know anyone gay or feel like they are “not gay enough” or that they’re just greedy. Ouch, right?
But something awesome about bisexuality, the degree of your attraction may shift and evolve as you grow older. Queer subjects then become even more challenging to pin down, especially because a bisexual person can cleave harder toward one gender at one point in their life and swing fully the other way later on. It still does not negate their bisexuality.
And I mean, come on, let’s get something straight here, just because you are bi-sexual doesn’t mean that every single person is going to float your romantic boat at all times. The Confusion mostly came from the idea that bisexuality means being interested in everyone, but really, all it means is having the potential to be attracted to more than one gender.
Bisexuality in the Big Wide World
Bisexuality is not a novel thing. Something that’s even older, and thus — as long as humans have been around — which is something in fact. Ancient Greeks and Romans? Totally cool with it. In reality, it is a relatively modern phenomenon with the overwhelming majority of people experiencing biphobia and erasure. The bisexual flag is a relatively new symbol but has become an important marker of pride and visibility
In terms of erasure, How many LGBTQ characters can you name from television? Probably not many, right? The person does not exist in the media, and to some bisexual people, that invisibility can feel as if they do not exist at all or are seriously misunderstood. Representation matters, and it’s important for people identifying as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and beyond to see themselves portrayed accurately in the media.
Many people may wonder about pansexual vs bisexual identities, but both fall under the larger umbrella of sexual fluidity and attraction beyond strict gender binaries.
Pretty much every bisexual person has different hurdles and discrimination to deal with. However, they might face biphobia from straight and LGBTQ+ communities alike. This can result in increased rates of mental health concerns and isolation. But I repeat, those struggles are not bisexuality— they are just that: hurdles to clear.
Tips for Embracing Your Bisexuality
For those who are bisexual or questioning, here is how to help you with your journey.
- Self-Acceptance is Key: Feel however you are feeling You are not wild, hungry or a floozy. You are you and that is fantastic!
- Educate Yourself: Best move is to read up on actual Bisexuality, its History and Culture. That is an empowering state of awareness.
- Seek Support if Needed: If you find it difficult to cope on your own, don´t hesitate to ask for help. Several therapists work on LGBTQ+ problems that can actually offer the necessary assistance.
- Celebrate You: One for the diary – Celebrate Bisexuality Day is on September 23rd
Wrapping It Up
And that is a wirlwind presentation of bisexuality! We have done a lot — from defining bisexuality, to examining the lived experiences of bisexual people.
Just keep in mind, sexuality is a spectrum and bisexuality makes that beautiful spectrum. I hope that whether you are bisexual, an ally or just simply interested in the topic, this blog might have opened up your eyes as to what it sometimes means by being bi.
Continue the conversation! Break stereotypes when you hear them, sit with your bisexual friends and continue learning. You know knowledge and empathy opens all those doors for everyone.
Whether you’re waving the bisexual flag at Pride or supporting your friends, it’s vital to celebrate the unique identity of bisexual individuals. Mark your calendars for Celebrate Bisexuality Day, a time to honor bisexuality and promote visibility and acceptance.
Also for those who are bisexual — fly that pink, purple, and blue bisexual flag high! Your feelings are valid, your journey is endlessly real and you yourself are simply extraordinary just the way you are.